Starting Over

by Mandy on September 26, 2010

Today is my soldier hubby’s birthday…

He’s 35 years old today.

We have been “together” {or at least in each other’s lives} since he was only 20.

Fifteen years.

That’s a huge investment, by anyone’s standards.

Lord knows, it has not been an easy fifteen years.  It hasn’t always been happy, lovely, or fun.  But they are our years – the good, the bad, and the challenging.  This is our time

Our time to start over.  Our time to once again forgive.  Our time to go back to the basics of loving, supporting, and leaning on each other.  Our time to trust – both each other and God.

Hubby is still bravely and faithfully attending his counseling sessions – fighting those demons we both want evicted from our lives.  While he is facing his own battles, I have decided to conquer a few of mine as well.  I know I am not perfect.  I am certainly not the perfect wife, no matter how you slice it.  And if Hubby can admit and tackle his faults and failures, so can I.

In honor of my soldier’s birthday, in honor of our fifteen-year investment… in honor of starting over, I am beginning to read Have a New Husband by Friday written by Dr. Kevin Leman. Truthfully, I am not trying to change my husband, but rather to change me.  Communication is one of our continual “pot holes”, and I am hoping to alter that.  According to Dr. Leman, the whole process is as easy as A, B, C -

Attitude

Behavior

Communication.

Don’t worry! I am not naive.  I know that our issues are most definitely not cut-and-dry, and that no book {outside of the Bible} will truly hold all the answers!  Just hoping this one might at least cover a few of them for us!

Hanging in, hanging on, and not giving up!

Thanks for all your prayers and support so far!

Enhanced by Zemanta

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Sharon O September 26, 2010 at 10:10 pm

will be praying for you both.

Reply

2 mary duncan September 27, 2010 at 2:30 pm

Still praying for you guys! I love and miss you both!
mary duncan´s last blog post ..Picasa

Reply

3 Sari October 11, 2010 at 11:55 am

A beautiful post filled with honesty. I have not surfed any blogs in such a long time..
My prayers are with you – Keep hanging in! The alternative is awful.

Happy Bday to your soldier :)

Reply

Leave a Comment

CommentLuv badge

Previous post:

Next post:

© 2010 - Brokenness into Beauty All Rights Reserved. No content on this site may be reused in any way without written permission from the author.